Creepers Who Compliment Don’t Know THIS

There’s such an emphasis on women’s insecurity in society that it creates this paradox encouraging straight men to lay on the sexualized attention. Many men (and women) think that we want to hear “You are so good looking/hot/beautiful”, over and over in different phrasing, because we supposedly need endorsement on how we look.  It’s assumed we feel more satisfied with ourselves based on the compliments received.

THIS IS A FALLACY.

In actuality, it reinforces insecurity if the compliments have nothing to do with who she is.

Ever noticed how the more gorgeous a woman is, how she is often heavily guarded if she is not surrounded by people she’s comfortable with? She’s been bombarded with superficial comments and does not feel open and safe with strangers. The compliments get painted on an ever-changing exterior, it ages, it dries, it cracks. She has learned that being attractive is the ultimate double-edge sword. While beauty is revered, it is also loathed, competed against, used, bought and sold. The beauty obsession is so grandiose that any personality facets that are so bold to distract from a woman’s beauty are commonly discouraged. So she is taught that the only thing worth investing in is her inevitably depreciating exterior.

While many women are fortunate enough to have a healthy support system, it’s the women who don’t that are easily caught up in a world where beauty is the only truth. This world is adorned by an overemphasis in aesthetics, being happy is dependent on how many Facebook and Instagram “likes” are flowing in, and every physical compliment is accepted as a coin in their bottomless piggy bank meant to be evidence for her self-worth. She believes that the more revealed, sexualized, and desirable she is, the validity of her worth is realized. But the bank is never full. While this lifestyle can produce healthy ancillaries, the opposite is also true.  Imagine the suffering when her exterior can no longer be sustained and it is the only worth she believes she has.

While it may be counterintuitive, the best way to compliment a woman is to treat her with respect BEFORE using verbal affection. If you want to recognize a woman’s beauty, identify with her essence. Perceive her as a platonic ally first and foremost, and you will see a greater authenticity revealed in her response and relations toward you.

When you compliment a woman’s character, she becomes a greater, more secure, more contented life force. She becomes bigger than the skin she’s in. While physical compliments can be nice, they are surprisingly best left for closer connections. Building rapport is critical to compliment effectively.  If a compliment is sexually charged (physically based) and you have not established trust, the effort will typically backfire.

Before you act on the impulse to offer a compliment, consider what it IS you’re complimenting. The more at has to do with a quality that a person will still have in 50 years, the more bounty of positivity it will produce.

Creepers Who Compliment Don’t Know THIS

If You’re Not Aging Gratefully, You’re Doing it Wrong

For the last 12 years, I’ve had the great pleasure of being able to work with people of all ages.  Since we live in a society that not only treasures youth, but idolizes and obsesses over it, (thanks Kardashians), suffice it to say our aging community suffers.  The devastating loss of an open date book, resilient skin elasticity, and the bounty of energy associated with rapid cell regeneration all hurts a lot.  There’s one major caveat;  We are all of the aging community.

In my early 20’s, many flight attendants 30+ made passive aggressive remarks about how “old” they are and how ignorantly “young” I was.  Now, as I near my last year of my 20’s, occasionally I mention I’m almost 30 to set context. I.E.  “Geez, well I’m almost 30 so I think it would be nonsense if I hadn’t figured <insert developmentally mature thing here> by now!”  Occasionally I get snapped at, “You’re NOT almost 30!  You’re still in your 20’s!”

But…I wasn’t trying to insult myself…

The “Doing it Wrong” Checklist:

#1.  You believe that referencing getting older for anyone above 21 is an insult.  

Whether it’s from past regret or the idea that you lose something with time, there’s something about aging that stirs fear within you.

#2.  You make sour remarks to younger people about what they don’t know or understand yet.

This is one of the most offensive exchanges that I have with people.  There is a long list of what’s wrong with this, beginning with the fact that you are not in an exclusive club of honors for having extra years on your belt—and even if you were, you would dismiss any earned respect by patronizing someone who hasn’t done the same (and for reasons that are not their fault, ie THE YEAR THEY WERE BORN).

But assuming you’ve already made a remark like this, there’s more to understand here about what happens when you do this.  By abrasively claiming further wisdom than your younger counterpart, you’ve indicated that you have more knowledge but that you are bitter about it.  Basically, you sound like a martyr.

(Note:  You sound like you’re martyring yourself for simply aging…please think about that for a moment).

Aside from how you sound, the feeling that strikes this younger person is a sense of guilt and shame.  Guilt:  This younger peer cannot compete with age that you clearly have more of (note: you’ve turned it into a competition by introducing it in the first place) but also can’t deny the fact that they have more years ahead than you do.  Shame:  The younger person also can’t safely attempt to console you because you’ve put yourself on a pedestal and simultaneously insulted them, as well as yourself.  You have left them powerless to navigate this uncomfortable dialogue.  Any response means validating your age (thus, adding insult to self-inflicted injury) or attempting to invalidate the quality of one’s youth.  Oh, by the way, putting someone in a corner and forcing them to make uncomfortable decisions that serve your agenda (albiet, a self-destructive one) is a form of extortion.  Yikes.

#3  You believe certain ages dictate where people are in life and how much they know or don’t know.

Stereotyping is human, it’s normal and to be expected.  However, with each personal interaction there’s an opportunity to make space for who that person actually is.  Or, you can populate that space with your own assumptions based on how old they are.  Sounds kinda bad and unfair, right?  You also get to live in the self-affirming fantasy that you’re always right about your assumptions, which is fine and well, but you didn’t actually confirm anything.

#4  Okay, you did stereotype but you WERE right!  That person is just the shallow, inexperienced, had-everything-handed-to-me-in-life-never-suffered-for-anything sorority girl you took her for!

Sure, this girl doesn’t share the same dismal weekend plans of checking yelp reviews for a facelift surgeon.  But does that mean she has nothing to offer you and deserves to be scoffed at and dismissed?  Younger people are usually in the business of seeking and seizing opportunity, so there is beneficial information to be extracted from this encounter—for you or someone you care about.

#5  You believe senior citizens are invisible in this society or you’re afraid that you’re losing relevance.

This is a devastating self-fulfilling prophecy.  Recently, I went to a lecture at the SF Zen Center where the speaker had an unusually vulnerable session of tears and confessions, (“Zen Center”—I know, right?).  She had said that in her recent gray-haired days people regard her less, cars don’t stop when she’s trying to cross on a crosswalk, and she felt her opinion carried little value in a political meeting she’d just attended.  She complained about the over-sensationalization of people narcissistically posting videos online of their babies doing funny things.  She disapproved, but moreover, she felt disconnected.

I feel compassionate for this woman (despite being butt-hurt for enjoying those “narcissistic” baby videos), because I know what she’s talking about.  Not just the content, but the emotional experience she’s undergoing.  She’s feeling isolated and chooses her age to explain it, which is the devastating self-fulfilling prophecy I prefaced with above.  When you’re a senior citizen and you’ve noticed a connection decline with age, it seems but obvious that it’s about your age.  Besides, there’s a correlation, why not assume it’s causation, too?  (This was a tease, correlation = causation!)

You will always find the answers you’re seeking.  Since the youngens outnumber the seniors by a long shot, there’s no way even most of them are relevant and noticed.  But they can’t really say it’s because they’re old.

#6  You put yourself down for things indicative of your age and you talk about aging like it’s a misfortune.

I get it—crows feet, fine lines, deep lines, the charming frown lines (that number 11 I’ve been allegiantly cooking up-yes, me!), less freedom and flexibility, more obligations, less sleep, and so on.  But since when do we define a person by those things?  Since when are you defined exclusively by when you were born?

By living this truth, you are perpetuating the problem.  Younger people hear you grieve your youth and learn to believe that aging is a bad thing.

In my earlier days of flying, I remember that I got anxious every time someone older talked about aging like it was an impending doom.  I would spend hours thinking about how I could make more of each moment– you know, since my youth was escaping me with each breath.  So while all these people were ‘trying to make me feel more grateful and happy with what I had’, it instead induced the opposite; I was stricken by the thought that my life was passing me by and so I constantly strategized to make every moment memorable, of maximum value, interesting and perfect.  I stole the time from myself by obsessing about time not yet lost.  Every time I forgot to think about time passing (AKA LIVING IN THE MOMENT), I would inevitably run into another adult who was sure to remind me.  It sucked.

Now that my skin is not so dewy and vibrant, I don’t get it nearly as much, and I’ve never been so grateful.  (Who knew dry skin and sleep deprivation could be such a gift?)

#7  You sometimes compliment a younger person with regretful or condescending add-ons.

You’re not helping by making young people feel like a ticking time-bomb.  A sincere compliment can sound like, “You have so much abundant energy!” or “You are so resilient!” or “Wow, you have gorgeous _____.”  Qualifying compliments with youth carries the subtext, “but if you weren’t so young, you wouldn’t have the quality I just complimented you on”.  It’s… well, backhanded.

The lessons from these behaviors or ways of thinking teach younger people that you become unhappy with yourself when you age.  That despite life being a gift, you can be filled with so much distaste for yourself and regrets about your past that you can forget how fortunate you are to be alive. As if the embellishments that make life wonderful are stripped of you with time, a force you can’t control.

So you may think you are just insulting yourself and trying to send a positive message of gratitude for the young, you are actually insulting every young person who will eventually reach the age you are today.  If you are not grateful, you are not equipped to send a message of gratitude to somebody else, so please stop telling yourself that it’s an altruistic effort.

Rather than spewing this age-obsessed garbage about fading away, you need to embrace your relevance and impact.  I want you to see how powerful you are.  You either support the pattern of societal condemnation toward aging or you can proactively break it.

When I was 19 years old and rented my first apartment on my own, I bought a coffee table book at Goodwill about aging gracefully.  I wondered-did people really need justification to be okay with their age?  I thought everyone knew that insecurity is what took from your grace, not wrinkles.  It just hadn’t occurred to me that those things were related (and it didn’t take me long to realize they didn’t have to be).  The book’s list of positives for aging was long and robust.  Over the years since I owned that book, I was secretly envying older people.  I relished the fact that someday not only would I be able to have that sense of comfort and calm, but that people would finally regard me with respect.  Meanwhile, I’m living the dumber, younger life that older people often idealize and miss deeply.  Put simply, we’re suffering from a bad case of the grass is always greener.  The only cure is to implement grateful thinking so that we can get back to the now.  I hope that after sharing this, we can start doing this aging thing better.  With gratitude comes grace, and there’s just no beauty quite like it.

If You’re Not Aging Gratefully, You’re Doing it Wrong

19 Things Your Flight Attendant Wants Everyone To Know

1. When we first get hired, almost every one of us feels and acts like this

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Years later, even if you put us in a torture chamber we will never admit this occurred.

2. Why? Because we feel like this just THINKING about it:

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3. Now when we look at our schedules, we don’t experience explicit joy for the unknown.  We feel that going from a winter wonderland, to a tropical paradise and back to the base in 3 days is as amazing as brushing your teeth in the morning.

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4. We might fly to 5 different cities in a day but never even look out the window. So when you ask us to list the individual cities we might respond like

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5.  We have asked you over and over, keep the aisle way clear so we can process this crew change.   But seriously, YOU NEED TO KEEP THE AISLE WAY CLEAR BECAUSE WE COMIN’ EITHER WAY

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6.  When greedy passengers order half a dozen things on a full, 50-minute flight…at first we’re like this:

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but then we’re like this

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8.  When we make an announcement to kindly remove something small from the overhead bin for others’ larger items and you ACTUALLY DO IT, it does not go unnoticed.  We’re actually watching from the back galley going:

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9.   Phones.  We fought, we struggled, we took the plane back to the gate.  Deep down, we’re so happy the struggle is over.  But admittedly, the first day the ban went away, it was a little like this:

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10.  Now, we love the lifted ban as much as you do!

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11.  But this fabulous bond ends the second you take our picture without asking.

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12.  While we’re on the topic of “Check yourself before you wreck yourself”, the following statements have already been made thousands of times;

When briefing the over-wing window exit and advising that your job is to stay and help others in an evacuation,   “HA, Oh YEAH-I’ll be the first one out!”

When taking drink orders,   “I’ll take the lobster, HA HA HA!”

 If you say either of these things, you’re inviting a response of:

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Yes, we are experiencing physical pain due to your terrible humor.

13.  Being weird, expectant, or obnoxious and then asking for a free drink will get you this:

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14.  But if you’re awesome and treat us like the super cool humans that we are, we might just respond like;

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15.  And as a result, this somebody might be so inclined to take special care of you.

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16.  As it turns out, just basic kindness rules work wonders on us!

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17.  Being respectful and appreciative lights up our inner light-just like any one else.  So if that’s your style, you’ve already got it made in our books!

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18.  So the next time you’re on a plane, remember your Flight Attendants are super awesome people trapped in a tube all day with the traveling public-the frontline for the chaos that ensues with travel.  Sometimes, we are all dressed up nice in our uniform, holding a straight face when we really feel like this:

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19.  So when 100+ strangers are around, some demanding energy, attention, catering, servicing, etc.. and you talk and act like we are lovely, decent, resilient creatures among the wild…you might, just MIGHT, see a lil of this guy again:

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19 Things Your Flight Attendant Wants Everyone To Know

Ambien Linked to Death

What if I told you that the long-term use of prescription sleeping pills increased your risk of death by 3-5 times even if you only took it once a year?

Researchers at Scripps Clinic, headquarters in San Diego, stated, “Even among patients who were prescribed 1 to 18 sleeping pills per year, the risk of death was 3.6 times higher than among similar participants who did not take the medications. The study looked at patients aged 18 years and older, and found the increased risk in all age groups.”

It’s no secret that sleeping pills are popular among flight attendants across the globe. When you have your clock flip there’s sometimes no other option to fall sleep. So what does this say about flight attendants health-wise? Ellen Simonetti, a Delta Flight Attendant was quoted in Brian Finke’s “Flight Attendants”. Because she speaks German, right at hire Simonetti was awarded overseas routes from Orlando to Frankfurt. “We had a 24-hour layover, so the jet lag was really bad. A lot of flight attendants are addicted to sleeping pills.”

And it’s true. Not just that it’s used often and addictive, but it may just be necessary. The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health published these results in a sleep study in June of 2000:

“Our observations indicate that FAs experience increased sleep disturbance, which may be an indicator of circadian rhythm disruption.”

What exactly does that mean? Web MD says, “The term circadian comes from Latin words that literally mean around the day. There are patterns of brain wave activity, hormone production, cell regeneration, and other biological activities linked to this 24-hour cycle.

The circadian “clock” in humans is located mainly in the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN), which is a group of cells located in the hypothalamus (a portion of the brain). Circadian rhythms are important in determining human sleeping patterns.”

In other words, when your circadian rhythm is off you don’t reproduce cells as quickly-for healing, for youthful skin, and for a “fit” brain. It also can caused increased appetite, high cortisol levels that potentially block DHEA. Insufficient levels of DHEA contribute to fatigue, but are also associated with reduced muscle mass, bone loss, aching joints, decreased sex drive, impaired immune function, and depression. Boo!

With this recent study release, people are up in a frenzy. In the last 10 years it’s been estimated that sleeping pills such as Ambien and Lunesta have been prescribed at exponential rates, meaning more people than ever are taking prescription medication for sleep.

One doctor is adamant to educate the public about the risks. He published 35 years of research at http://www.darksideofsleepingpills.com/. Near the end of his web book, he states that more research needs to be done before people are allowed to take these medications, it’s a no-brainer.

Because of that small window of possibility created by the need for more research, in the meantime, sleeping pills continue to be ingested everywhere. At the CNN Health site, a post revealed industry criticism of the “conclusive” mortality risks. The primary argument: If we don’t know WHAT it is in a sleeping pill that creates this “likely” cancer or increased mortality risk, we can’t say for sure that it is truly the problem. Comments by the public are critical, too. People are frustrated that we’re talking about healthy and unhealthy people of such a wide range of variables- so saying an earlier death was caused by 18 pills of Ambien over 2 years? They say it’s preposterous.

My personal take? I am certain the drug companies are not in favor of research that conflicts with their bottom (financial) line. A lot of propaganda will be published to keep the public uncertain and therefore continue the use of their drugs. If enough of these studies are reflecting terrifying research results, it’s not a bad idea to readdress any sleeping stuggles and come up with a plan to naturally tackle the problem of sleeplessness.

As flight attendants, we ought to be begging for more search for our particular work group. The biggest resource I found was NIOSH (National Institute for Occupational Safety & Health); In partnership with the Federal Aviation Administration, the National Cancer Institute, the HHS Office of Women’s Health and the Department of Defense Women’s Health Research Program, NIOSH has established a program of research for the cabin crew occupational group. The few studies they’ve published can be found HERE. They don’t have any recent news about current studies and the last one published was on pilots in June 2011 and before that, in 2008.

With the new information posted about sleeping pills, flight attendants need to be analyzed and studied for the purpose to keep our work group informed, proactive, and educated. Furthermore, the isolated study of the use of sleeping pills will contribute to the overall conclusions on whether or not regular/intermittent use is, in fact, an extreme health hazard.

Do you agree? Do you want to know what the use of sleeping aids means for the lives of prescribed flight attendants? Call or shoot a quick email to NIOSH to remind them we’re eager to see more studies done and especially if you’d like to volunteer. We need to know more.

National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH)
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
800-CDC-INFO
(800-232-4636)
TTY: (888) 232-6348

8am-8pm ET/Monday-Friday
Closed Holidays

cdcinfo@cdc.gov

Fly safe, my friends.

Ambien Linked to Death

So You Want To Become A Stewardess

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But the question is; 

Do you have what it takes?

 

Many of us flight attendants get phone calls, emails, texts, facebook comments, youtube messages-you name it-asking about how to become a flight attendant.  

If I could offer a statistic on how many of those people who ask end up following up on their steps, I’d put it around 5%.  (On behalf of all my other flight attendant pals out there, we’d like you to know that we spend a lot of time answering inquiries about how to apply and what it’s like only to find they inquirer isn’t really THAT motivated.)  

We are so conditioned to receive a manual for everything, have a magazine tell us how to diet, a computer spit out all requirements for fulfillment of our college degree, legal documents with florescent tabs that tell us where to sign.  So when a flight attendant tells us we have to do research, fill out applications, wait months, maybe get a call, wait more months, maybe get a group interview, wait longer, maybe get a one-on-one interview, wait months for a training invite, offer fingerprints, background, drug testing, quit our lives for a month or more to attend a training usually out-of-state, pass all tests with 90% or above under stressful circumstances, test out the job for the first time while being watched and reviewed, maybe graduate, maybe start work soon, begin 6 month or more probation period which could result in termination if found unfit for the job-many people run the other direction in exhaustion over the instructions, alone.

Not running away? Okay, let’s save your flight attendant pal some time and give you some tips!

In order to apply, select your preferred airline, google their main website and click the “Careers” link.  
(Unlike most jobs, you will not have a number to call to try and speak to a manager, so you have to get filtered through the system-so yes, your resume must be dazzling in order to not get overlooked.) See if they have openings for Flight Crew.  If not, build a profile and sign up for email notifications when the position opens.  When you receive the email, APPLY IMMEDIATELY, as in most cases the opportunity does not remain open.  When I applied over 5 years ago my company told us in the group interview that they received 10,000 resumes a month-that’s when the applications were open.  In many cases, now they are restricted to a few hours a year so that should put it into perspective for you-getting an interview alone will be like winning the lottery.

It’s worth it, so do not be discouraged by the odds!

For help in selecting an airline to apply for, you have to identify priorities.  Do you want to be home more?  Don’t commute from another city.  See if an airline offers a base in your local airport.  Want to have job security?  Do your research.  Certain airlines are barely getting by, some have a history of furloughs, some are industry-leading and are consistently profitable.  

After you begin flying, the rumor about your life changing and it being very difficult in the first year is TRUE.  Airlines manage their employee’s schedules and pay scales based on seniority.  Since everyone is new at some point, they take the biggest scheduling blows.  You are at the mercy of the company, filling in all the holes regardless of your convenience or preference.  Of course, if it wasn’t survivable and worth the sacrifice, there wouldn’t be so many flight attendants and such fabulous retention.  Despite the initial struggles, once you get some new hires underneath you, the quality of life begins to improve.  Pay goes up, your schedule gets better, you get some more respect.  

This is of course assuming the economy allows for new people to be hired.  I spent over 2 years stuck at the same seniority during the distinct wake of the recession and some months wondering if I was safe from a furlough-you never know.

My strongest recommendation in your journey is to begin with a built back-up plan or ensure your support system is ready for you to need them.  This industry is unpredictable and there are many people who become a flight attendant without anything to fall back on, so when times are tough they are stricken with fear for their job.  You don’t want to be that person.  Understanding the age we live in and how ugly it can get for airlines will give you an advantage, there is no certainty.  

Of course, there’s a piece inside you that is thrilled by that uncertainty, otherwise you wouldn’t be inquiring about the job!  With this knowledge you have power.  Full speed ahead, my friends, “May the odds be ever in your favor”!

So You Want To Become A Stewardess

Welcome Aboard: Today’s Flight Will Be Operated by Insane People.

“Sometimes the airline won’t give us lunch breaks or even time to eat. We have to delay flights just so we can get food.” -First officer on a regional carrier

“The truth is, we’re exhausted. Our work rules allow us to be on duty 16 hours without a break. That’s many more hours than a truck driver. And unlike a truck driver, who can pull over at the next rest stop, we can’t pull over at the next cloud.” -Captain at a major airline

—Excerpts from Reader’s Digest: 50 Secrets Your Pilot Won’t Tell You

The airline industry is a whole different world. It’s more than the buzz of excitement where “not two days are alike”. We flight crew members pride ourselves on the simplicity of our tasks, the ease at which we can adventure as we please and the thrill of the unknown. However, the less considered factors take their toll.

There’s no ignoring the travel fatigue, alternating flight schedules, everlasting jetlag, frequent conflict-resolution encounters, nutritional deficiencies, good health/diet maintenance, illness exposure, on stage presence and unruly passenger demands, among SO MANY other things. In the industry, often times you will either get an earful from somebody who has had it up to here (hand fiercely up to head) with passengers or you will hear what I like to call, “The Denial Monologue”. It’s the 2-3 paragraph long speech about how easy our jobs are, how lucky we are, how no one understands how good we have it, so on and so forth. Not for a moment do I deny the wonderful aspects of being a flight crew employee, but you won’t hear me sing a song about how there are no compromises being made to have such a great gig.

It seems with the recent events with the American flight attendant’s hysterical rants, the Jet Blue Captain’s flight deck lockout while on duty, and our favorite Jet Blue Flight Attendant, Steven Slater, who executed a dramatic emergency slide exit-they aren’t about to deny the compromises, either.

How do we go from having a bright-eyed and bushy-tailed new hire to a crew member who’s gone completely bonkers? Furthermore, you may be wondering what exactly are the regulation standards on evaluating the mental and general health of those operating your flight?

The following is an excerpt from the FAA Code of Regulations:

3-1930 CREW MEDICAL QUALIFICATION AND PROCEDURES DURING TEMPORARY MEDICAL DEFICIENCY.

A. Responsibility of Operators and Flight crew Members. Title 14 CFR part 61, § 61.53 and 14 CFR part 63, § 63.19 preclude required flight crew members from flight duty while they have a known medical or physical deficiency. These sections rely solely on the ability of flight crew members to honestly determine their medical fitness. It is incumbent on individual airmen to be certain that they have no illness or physical impairment that would affect their medical fitness for flight. The NTSB believes that air carrier operators should share the responsibility for verifying flight crew members medical fitness for flight duty. However, it is not always easy for operators to determine the extent of a crewmember’s medical fitness. In order to maintain the highest level of safety, required flightcrew members must not fly under conditions that would make them unable to meet the requirements for their current medical certificate. This decision should not be influenced by fear of company reprisals.

B. POI Responsibility. POIs [principal operations inspectors] should encourage their assigned air carriers to have established sick leave policies and procedures, especially those concerning the release of flightcrew members from duty when they develop sudden temporary illnesses, such as colds, flu, or fevers. These policies and procedures should not discourage flightcrew members from taking sick leave when they are ill.

Did you catch that last part-about us not being discouraged by policies and procedures to take sick leave while ill? Truth be told, we are not only strongly discouraged but flight crew employees live in a fear of discipline leading up to termination over illness during their careers-particularly flight attendants. This is a never-ending battle between the employing airline and the crew employee. To put it simply; a flight attendant (or pilot) is just a number. No one will miss you and the operation will typically not suffer from your absence since your personal contributions are not essential to the function of the flight. Because of this, it is practically painless to claim illness behind a telephone line even when illness is not the case. This is called “Sick Leave Abuse”.

Sick Leave Abuse, if proved, will end your career.

Since the policies for airlines have to attempt be fair considering the impact of an ill crew member inflight, there is extensive gray area. This leaves a lot of room for people to abuse “Sick Leave” benefits, and you may have guessed by now, employees do.

The airlines spent exorbitant amounts of money compensating for the abuse. In an effort to manage the losses, the company theory is that the punishment has to be significant to scare away the abusers. Simultaneously, fear reverberates through the system, stress levels rise, illness spreads, and now you have the abusers at home pretending to be sick and the ill suffering through the job. As you can imagine, between all of this, there’s not a whole lot of opportunity for proper self-evaluation. When it comes down to it and we’re sick, we’ve stopped asking ourselves if we are “fit to fly”. Rather, we ask ourselves if we are so brutally ill to risk our jobs by waiting until recovered.

USA Today reported:

JetBlue and Transportation Security Administration officials described the pilot as having a medical condition.

The pilot, who has not been identified, was transported to Northwest Texas Hospital, officials said.

“Another Captain, traveling off duty on Flight 191, entered the flight deck prior to landing at Amarillo, and took over the duties of the ill crewmember once on the ground,” the company said in a statement. “The aircraft arrived Amarillo at 10:11 a.m., and the crewmember was removed from the aircraft and taken to a local medical facility.”

The newspaper quotes TSA spokesman Luis Casanova as saying it “seems to be more of a medical issue than a security issue at this point.

And on with the mental instability….

American Airlines Flight Disruption Blamed on ‘Mental Episode’
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2012-03-13/american-airlines-flight-disruption-blamed-on-mental-episode-.html
I quote,
Flight 2332 to Chicago was preparing to take off with 144 passengers and five crew, when the attendant’s behavior prompted a return to the airport gate. Airport police said have said they wouldn’t seek state criminal charges.
The Association of Professional Flight Attendants, which represents 17,000 American employees, said today it makes mental health professionals available to help members deal with an “increasingly demanding and stressful” profession and that such instances are rare.

As you can see, there is even more going on than just jet fuel and security concerns onboard. The flight crew is not on vacation at work. Both sides are just head above water, trying to make the best of a difficult situation.

Family and friends of inflight employees can empathize with the challenges of frequent absenteeism at home. Any one who knows a crew member closely has an idea of the unusual and frequent stressors presented.

This is NOT an easy lifestyle, despite the easy tasks in an uneventful day-
Oh how we love those!

Despite all the scary psychotic breaks popping up, I’m really thankful that Southwest Airlines has been consistently positive. It seems only right that there be an industry leader to represent vibrance and positive culture.

Treat yourself to some sun-shiney inflight news: http://www.businessinsider.com/this-airlines-flight-attendants-vow-planes-full-of-people-by-singing-2012-3

To my fellow crew members out there, I wish you well and great health. Please call out if you are sick, especially in the head.

A blog I recommend to blow off some steam: http://rantsofasassystew.com/

Welcome Aboard: Today’s Flight Will Be Operated by Insane People.

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Great Video on a Hotel Room Workout